I never have liked parties.
I’m a one-on-one or small-group kinda guy. Big, loud, milling groups of people – not so much. Yelling to be heard over loud music and other yelling people – ugh.
At a couple of social gatherings this past week, I found myself in the social mosh pit, yelling conversationally as I tried, in vain, to find some sort of comfort zone. My 3 least favorite social adjectives were in play – loud, dark, and crowded! In each case, the solution was simple – find a quiet table somewhere and just talk to two or three while ignoring the chaos.
Next weekend is another high school reunion. I do enjoy seeing my old pals – though this whole aging thing is starting to wear out its welcome – but in past reunions, we’ve had DJs who thought the gathering was all about them, to the tune of 1,659 decibels of classic 70’s rock (note to DJs – I’m not there to get reacquainted with Peter Frampton. Can do that via iTunes…). Screaming at old friends across the table added auditory insult to aging injury. And, of course, this year the reunion falls on Berlin Fair weekend, so I plan to go there for old time’s sake and experience – what? Loud, milling crowds of people I don’t know. What am I thinking?
Even back in high school I had a measure of social claustrophobia, always avoiding the party scene. I guess some things never change…
I think reunions and parties would be much more enjoyable in a backyard with a grill, comfortable chairs, Sam Adams on ice, and lots of places to really talk. But that’s just me. Do you like the party scene, or do you prefer more intimate settings?