I was given the best present ever, thirty short years ago. Let me show you this gift, wrapped all in white…
(Still flirty after thirty!)
On that day, before God and earthly witnesses, we symbolically lit one candle from two separate flames, believing in our hearts that we would be better together than apart. Anyone who knows Sandy knows why at least one of us is WAY better off because of this union!
Little did I know, when we exchanged our vows, what a treasure had been given me. The beauty I saw then I still see now, only deepened by her steadfast loyalty, wisdom, patience, and love. We were best friends then; we are even more so now.
Sandy saw through my doubts and fears, and believed in me when I was more potential than actual. As one of her friends loudly put it a while back when she saw a picture of us in our engagement: “Girl, you was visionary!” Yes she was, to my eternal benefit!
We started our adventure together full of youthful idealism, shared vision, and not much else. The love first kindled in Lake Placid, NY (summer of ’79) eventually led to 5 blond-headed boys, outgrown houses, cars that became vans, jobs that became stepping-stones to starting a business – and, always in the midst, a lot of laughter. We have struggled through depression, life re-directions, wayward children, exile in NJ, and learning how to talk dirty. But through all the ups and downs, by the grace of God, the love of my life has stayed beside me.
Bonus: after 30 years and 5 kids, Sandy”s still hot. I’ve seen heads turn when we are out walking. She definitely still turns mine!
The ancient book of Proverbs (31: 10-12, 28-30) says it best:
An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life…Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying: “Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
My dear Sandy, there is much, much more that I wish I could give you. But this I can say, with the world as my witness: You are noble, praiseworthy, beautiful, and my dearest friend. You are God’s gift to an unworthy man, and you are my only love. I gladly give you my heart before all of these witnesses, as I did among our friends and family 30 years ago today.
I think this calls for a glass of fine wine (I wish I had a vintage ’81 in the cellar!). Care to join us?